To the godly single lady: Its okay to love and be loved!

To the godly single lady: Its okay to love and be loved!

Hello ladies!
How are you doing?

       I implore you to stay strong and stay safe in this period of grief and panic! Be assured that safety is of the Lord. Obeying the relevant medical authorities is also a proof of faith.

Our topic today promises to be engaging as I would be having some intimate expositions with us!

To the godly single lady: Its okay to love and be loved!

       Love is a deep feeling of care and affection towards another. It can be visually and physically expressed. Some say that love is a great force.


Interestingly, love is a language that everyone responds to…both humans and beasts understand the language of love. The beauty was able to tame the beast by the agency of love. This was not just documented in fairy tales. It happens in real life situations.

As the Holy bible says: God is love…
It is really heartwarming to discover that the greatest commandment God gave to mankind is centered on love.
Three kinds of love have been enumerated. However, for the purpose of emphasis, the focus of this discourse will be on the God’s kind of love (agape love). Certain attributes were used to describe this love:

Love is patient, kind, easily entreated (considerate) not resentful (takes no record of wrong).

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

4  Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5  does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6  does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7  bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

8  Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. 

As a lady, your ability to love is not in question. You have a greater tendency to love and be loved. This could be part of the reasons why God’s command to the woman (in a marriage relationship) was centered more on submission, rather than love.

You are full of love, and it is much more expressed in a godly single lady into whom God’s love has been shed unreservedly. 

Kindly refer to my post on the very first tip I shared : http://itsthewordhub.com/to-the-godly-single-lady-the-holy-spirit-is-your-first-lover/

Ephesians 5:22-25 (New International Version)

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

One way to measure one’s level of spiritual growth and intimacy with the Godhead is to check one’s level of love. Love is such that its presence is hardly ever repressed. It is almost always expressed!

Now, let’s be practical!

Do you remember those times when you were quite embittered, resentful and irritable about the difficulties around you? How was your love life then? How was your relationship with God? Was it any better, with men?

See, its all intertwined! Love flows from the Godhead!

An unhealthy love relationship with God will be often expressed in our relationships with men men, reflect in our daily dealings with men.

Okay, lets take it from a different dimension !
My dear single lady, its likely that, as you are reading through this, you are not yet engaged in a godly relationship with a man. Its likely that God has told you a lot about your prospective husband, and your future home!


Probably, you are building up yourself to be that award-winning wife: Reading every good book on godly relationships and marriage, Striving to attain spiritual, emotional and financial stability, etc.
I see those times when you take out time to pray for him (although you have never seen him, in flesh).


I know how you have begged God for grace to stay pure, focused and purpose-driven. More still, I see how joyful you can be when your friends are walking down the aisle.


Heyyyyy! I know that young man who you saw and really admire, and in your heart, too many questions are demanding for answers:


Scenario 1


Lord, Is he the one? He is God-fearing, enlightened, calm and really cool. We scored that wonderful song together. I really do like him, but of course, I wouldn’t even think of giving him this impression, or even telling him… He might assume that I am loose! (Smiles).

Scenario 2


Lord, you have convinced me beyond doubts that he is the one. Although, we are friends, he hasn’t said anything in this regard. I am getting other marriage proposals. What do I do?

Scenario 3


Lord, you have told me that when my prospective husband comes, I will recognize him. Exactly, how is this possible? Lately, I have been feeling funny. Many times, I pray for him. Although, I haven’t seen him. Could it be that he is around me, and I haven’t perceived it yet?

Are you in a relationship, espoused to be married to your ideal man?
The hallmark of true love is expressed when you take out to pray for him, and to pray with him!


Outside the boundaries of relationships with the opposite sex, you will discover that when you pray for someone, your love for him/her increases. Love repels hatred. God is love!


You can try this … take out time to pray for that friend who has been misbehaving. You’ll discover that your heart soon develops some soft spots of empathy for him or her.


Hence, it is imperative for the lady in a godly relationship to pray for her partner. It gives less room for resentment, doubt and suspicion.
In this position of intercession, you can also receive heavenly messages or revelations about him.

As stated above, a woman is full of love… hence, she expects love in return. This is why the bible recommends that husbands love their wives.

I need to write this… Every woman will know when a man is interested in her… Most women are not really shocked or surprised when a man hovering around them finally asks them out…


For some reasons, I am yet to discover, the ladies are quick to discern.

It takes an extremely smart and discrete godly man to finally propose to a lady, without her prior knowledge, especially an extremely spirit-sensitive lady.
This explains why the godly man must maintain some healthy distance, if he has no intention of marriage, and define certain things, from the outset.

However, the problem with this attribute of ladies is that some ladies are not able to recognize true love from God’s perspective. This will help in separating the grains from the chaffs.

To the godly single lady: Its okay to love and be loved!


Its okay to be loved too…

Truthfully, you need to  learn to be open to love. Please, don’t push it away, when you recognize it!
Do not hold on to the past. Embrace God and embrace love.
Some ladies are holding on to their past history of failed relationships.


True love comes with an atmosphere, you can decide to push it away.


Prepare your heart, by way of emotional stability, prayers, godly counseling and becoming actively involved in kingdom business.

Finally, pray to God from your heart to fill your heart with love for his son whom you are to be engaged to, or already engaged to be married to.

To the godly single lady: Its okay to love and be loved!
God bless you dear.

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