Handling the emotional surge as a godly single lady is one parameter that defines your emotional stability. Love is a beautiful thing and God is love

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My single lady, I felt it was time we discuss an important matter as it concerns us. Although, many Christian ladies tend to shy away from it. Nevertheless, shying away from it will not do us any good.


The matter for discussion here is one in my opinion has been a secret struggle for godly and sincere godly ladies. Indeed, many ladies here go as far as rebuking the very spirit of fornication and lust. (Smiles).


As seemingly necessary as the above sounds, it has not been largely helpful in curbing the occasional emotional crises that accompany the surge!
Learning how to handle the emotional surge as a godly single lady is one parameter that defines your emotional stability.


We’ ll continue the series with a story!


I am Amanda. I will be 29 years old in four weeks. I am saved! By God’s grace, I am a serial entrepreneur and a freelance writer . I am almost always busy with work or voluntary outreaches in my local church!
Everyone describes me as that spirited and exuberant young lady!
Although, I am not in any godly relationship, However, to the best of my knowledge, I am humble and accessible. I am not aware of my countenance being repulsive or scary to other men.
Nevertheless, I am yet to understand why I always feel occasional surge of loneliness. I cant explain my biological cycle at such times, but all I can say is that I feel so alone and the need to talk to someone!


I moved in to stay with Sandra, my bosom friend, for a while… Things seemed to have returned to normalcy, as I felt a lot better.
Indeed, Sandra was a hyper-active version of myself! (Smiles).

Unfortunately, one morning, I awoke from my sleep with a start!


“Amanda…” Sandra continued. Her eyes were all over me as though searching for answers!

I am your friend. Tell me the truth. What is bothering you?
I have been observing you for a while now, but I thought it was the pressure of work. What has been disturbing you dear?


In an attempt to act evasively, I wiped off a large bead of sweat off my forehead! in self defense, wanting to understand Sandra’s reason for her conclusions.


“Amanda, you are almost always absent-minded! You were talking in your sleep, and when I observed you some more, I noticed you were not praying! You were actually smiling and muttering some incomprehensible words. Your reaction is only peculiar to ladies who are newly engaged or married”!


Tell me Amanda, who is the brother? Sandra continued, rather laughingly!

In utter frustration, I had to spill the beans.

“I was love-sick!”

Before we continue, have you actually read the post below?

Its okay to love and be loved!

I’d be glad if you could read it… it has some helpful correlations to our topic of discussion!


Amanda’s case is not too different when compared to the present emotional disposition of many ladies.

Truthfully, many may not be so bold to talk about it, especially in this part of the world where such ladies may be labeled as carnal or obscene!
However, we must realize that as ladies, our tendencies of experiencing episodes of emotional waves is not in question.

Handling the emotional surge as a godly single lady is one parameter that defines your emotional stability. Love is a beautiful thing and God is love

Although medicine has been quite helpful in offering explanations for the above;
The upsurge of oestrogen hormones which is mostly implicated in emotions and sexual drive in women. In animals however, this is often uncontrolled and such are said to be ‘on heat’.


Fortunately, we are humans and are also spiritual beings. This offers us a higher advantage compared to others. Although, the fact that you are a Christian does not mean that you have lost all feelings of attraction to the opposite sex! This is not devilish!


Admiring a brother in church or your religious group is no reason to rebuke the devil. However, this is not a license to becoming loose or even to propose to him.

How to handle the emotional surge as a godly single lady

  • Be honest with yourself and own up to this reality that you can be vulnerable! You are human.
  • Sincerity with God is indispensable as you must lean on Him as your soul-provider:Take time to have some sincere talk with the Almighty God.
  • Talk to your spiritual guides and/or a mature friend, having a track record of integrity.
  • Be discrete and maintain a healthy distance from the young man in question (He may be the choir leader or a bible study teacher in your local church): Maintain this distance till you are sure that your emotions are stable.
  • It is likely that the young man in question also feels the same way about you and decides to propose… Do not be too hasty to say yes…take more time to pray and seek godly counsel! It is dangerous to trust your emotions at this time. It can be misleading!


Let me tell you a secret:

Time reveals the true nature of things. Be rest assured that if these feelings are genuine and inspired by God (which is a possibility), time will tell.

Be rest assured that love is a beautiful thing and since God is love…He will not leave an institution such as marriage to be bankrupt of His primary character: Love!

Probably, you are already in a God-ordained relationship, the same applies to you. Always ensure that the Holy Spirit remains your first lover.

Trust me when I say that He is an expert in the field of properly divesting those feelings when they arise. Remember, that it is the will of God that you stay pure, in order to secure a future that is pure! (I feel the rhyme here… (smiles)

For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 ESV)

Thank you so much for reading…

How to handle the Emotional surge as a godly single lady

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